Are you feeling frustrated and anxious about having a VBAC and do you believe you can't have a VBAC because you'll likely be the one to have a uterine rupture or end up with a repeat caesarean?
You're not alone...
Millions of women all over the world feel this way.
Feeling uncertain and anxious about having a VBAC is understandable. Especially if you've been spoon-fed information like you will have a uterine rupture and you and your baby will die.
That is some pretty heavy stuff to deal with. No one wants there baby to die and hearing so as a mother will most certainly send your high-intensity emotional responses crazy.
I remember I went to the midwives office feeling excited that I was pregnant and having a baby after my miscarriage. My midwife was so uncomfortably unempowering and pessimistic about me having a VBAC.
In fact, she told me I'm not allowed to have a VBAC, and I am being irresponsible. I must not listen to any fake stories from women claiming to have a VBAC because they are untrue.
I went home feeling on edge.
I just sat outside my window and cried...
The tears were so intense, and I could feel my heart muscles being squeezed by the pain I felt.
Was I being unthoughtful and irresponsible...
Was I REALLY not putting my baby first...
All these feelings made me think beyond my mind, so I know how you are feeling right now...
Let's try to work together
I want you to take a step back for a second and close your eyes(After you've read this)...
Take a deep breath in.....and out.....
and repeat this until you are relaxed and feeling light.
Answer these questions:
1. What's on your mind right now?
2. How is it making you feel?
3. What bothers you about this problem?
4. what can you do to change the impact of this situation in your life?
Sometimes we don't analyse what we are going through enough to realise we are in control of our own feelings and the route we take. We choose the road we walk down just like we choose to let people disrespect us or respect us.
Self-sabotage is a real issue among women who are interested in having a VBAC because BE ARE CONSTANTLY doubting ourselves and our bodies ability to let go and birth a baby vaginally.
Girl, you did not fail your last labor, and you didn't fail to progress; you were probably a victim of being rushed to birth in a short amount of time.
There is a growing trend of women being told they have to progress in a short amount of time; otherwise, a caesarean is the only route forward.
But we know women are not robots and sometimes the process may be longer or shorter for each woman. In other words, no two women are the same.
If you feel in your heart that having a repeat caesarean is not for you, I'd advise you to follow your gut feeling because many times, it will not let you down.
If you feel having a VBAC is right, then keep fIGHTING FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN.
Research more,Keep negativE people out of your space, including negative birth professionals. They will only destroy your VBAC dream....
I hope you have a wonderful birth experience...
Love to you from Naturelle VBAC